Motherhood Is So Much More

I pity Amy Glass.

Big Sister wants to feed the Baby

Big Sister wants to feed the Baby

It’s obvious that she has been taught that motherhood is nothing more than a box to tick off on your bucket list.  Likely this idea of motherhood as something beneath her, something to be derided and farmed out to the nanny, stems from her likely Feminist Studies professor, or worse, her own mother.  After reading her follow-up post about how much she disdains children, and assumes that the only reason to have a child is so that you won’t be lonely…  Well…  It made me wonder just how many abortions has this chick had, that she feels so viscerally anti-motherhood.

A quick glance through the rest of her short archive at ThoughtCatalogue (she’s only been blogging there since Dec 2013, and likely “Amy Glass” is a pen name, since she is apparently not on twitter or facebook) reveals a woman who believes her self-worth is tied up in how successful she is.  Beyonce is a woman to be admired, because she is so successful, she can have that baby, and hire a cadre of nannies to take care of little Blue Ivy while she continues to work and make money.  Yet this same author doesn’t seem to realize that without the cadre of nannies, Ms. B would have to take time off from her busy touring schedule to take care of baby Blue.  Somehow, the nanny working for and raising someone else’s child doesn’t have the same weight as that female CEO in this chick’s eye.  It’s as if all women should strive to be the Beyonces and the Marissa Mayers of the world.  But what Ms. Glass seems to ignore, is that if every female chose that path – who would be the nanny? The chef? Who would do all those little mundane things like dishes & housework? I guess that is all men’s work now, right?  Gee.  I hope Jay-Z has brushed up on his dishwasher loading skills.

Full disclosure – in my house, my wonderful husband does the laundry, because no matter what I do, I can never remember to switch the load from the washer to dryer.  He also pitches in with ALL the housework, because we are a team, and because I often either don’t have the energy, don’t see it, or just forget that some things (like vacuuming) need to get done. I do the teaching, the research, the refereeing, and whatnot.  I’m also an Aspie with depression, arthritis, & thyroid issues. I’m not the easiest person to live with, but he loves me anyway.

Me & my firstborn

Me & my firstborn

Point is, Ms. Glass is just another in a long line of young women who have been brought up in a culture that thinks babies are punishment, motherhood is something to be shunned, and your entire self-worth is tied up in your paycheck.  I feel sorry for her.

I hope that one day she will fall madly in love with a man who will love her and cherish her, and challenge everything she’s ever been told about men, marriage, and commitment.  I hope she loves her man so much, she has a child with him.  And on that day, when that tiny babe is placed in her arms, she will realize, motherhood – is so much more than just a box to check off on a bucket list.